The nature, mechanics, and resolution of emotional states — anger, fear, reactivity, and what lies beneath them.
To be happy, we need to get something and give something. When they say, you should be happy on your own, you should not need someone else to make you happy, they ignore reality. If you are starving, it is something from outside, food, would mak...
Resistance Causes Stress If you are driving and someone is pushing very close to your back, that is because you are irritating them, so they will irritate you. They want to go, they do NOT want to push you, they just want to go and you are holdi...
Emotional pain and suffering is very easy to eliminate because it's essentially not real. You must test this information and prove it to yourself in under one minute. You must do the proving yourself with this very simple exercise otherwise if it...
Anger, Stress, Frustration Is True Power When you get really frustrated or stressed, you can feel it building up inside you like a nuclear bomb already exploded and you just need to let that energy out, that is actual power. It is born from anger...
Of all the concepts I have created to help people overcome feeling emotional pain stemming from manipulations by the people you love or have to deal with, this has been the most widely praised. If a plane flies into a mountain, everyone dies and ...
Let’s look at one of the biggest turnoffs or red flags when we're dating. When we say something without meaning to be rude or nasty, if everything is going great but we say something that changes the mood because the other person gets upset with ...
Reacting emotionally, even to a minor degree, being sensitive to what somebody says and getting upset because you didn't like it, or you felt insulted, has a profound effect on the other person. You may be correct that what they said was inapprop...
Many people have come to me with the same problem; ‘Everything seems so perfect with this new person I met, I can’t find anything wrong, so I better leave before I get hurt.’ It’s very common to not be able to figure out what that strange thing i...
First we must make certain assumptions that we accept as truth for the purpose of this article. You can change you opinion after you finish reading, but at least while you read, it will be beneficial. First, that we are fragmented beings and not ...
There are two ways a human can communicate, with the mind and the intellect or the heart and feelings. The mind is very dangerous because it works with opinions and assumptions. The function of interpretation is very flawed because we think we kn...
Why We Justify And Dispute Some people often dispute anything that appears even slightly as a criticism or negative comment towards them. They justify and argue that it is not true, or they have excuses why this was an exception but, they never n...
Faith Is An Emotional Power That Makes A Human Into A Super Human Let us begin with making it clear that we are not speaking of faith in a religious sense, but rather as a mental force used by all humans. This article is an objective exploration ...
Emotional Independence Don’t just think who you are, know who you are. Become Emotionally Independent.. The goal of personal development is personal freedom. Freedom from your emotions, moods, reactions to success or failure and most importantly...
Anger can be either destructive or constructive, depending on whether it is at or for something. Anger at is destructive and serves no useful purpose. It is the emotion we express toward drivers who cut us off, for example. This type of anger robs...
Stop and reflect if you really hate it, is it really that bad? Will it really kill you? You will find that hating something is just a learnt habitual reaction and things are never as bad as you see them to be.. Exercises. Learn From Stereotypes....
Attacking words are just a knife put on the table. You must pick it up and stab yourself for those words to hurt you otherwise they are as powerless as if spoken in an unknown language.. You give the words power and thus you have the choice to le...
I am so frustrated by the medical profession that puts eagles in a cage with tortoises and tells them they need to be like tortoises. Stop flying high and fast and get down to earth and crawl in hyper slow motion like everyone else, then you will ...
A wild animal doesn't mate well in captivity. There is no room for its spirit to roam free so it will not have the motivation to reproduce in its small cage. Then it takes viagra to deliver what nature moves it to want. Using this analogy, see ho...
Ask yourself this question; 'If you were given a choice, would you choose to have $10 million but not be entirely happy or, to be incredibly happy all the time.' Another question is; 'Would you rather fit in to society and be accepted as normal b...
The negative quality of revenge must not be underestimated for its self destructive effects and how to avoid that. Bitterness in you makes you want to stick a knife in the other person because you do not like what they did. This is obviously bad ...
If you have constant remembrance and express thoughts of appreciation and gratitude for everything you received, there is very little room in your heart and mind for self-pity and negative emotions because it is always filled with love and gratitu...
It is very important to remove all negative emotions, and that means also remove all negative memories, if you want a peaceful life. People rarely consider how a negative memory from long ago can effect and destroy their energy for the rest of th...
Our heart must have something to love or care about, that is just part of being human. If we do not have anyone to love, we will look for someone or something, a pet or good cause, so there is something for our heart to feed on. This is the caus...
If you find you have perpetual chain of problems in your life, it may be because you need to have problems, not just because you have bad luck. Self Pity is probably the most common negative emotion that everyone has. Everyone has it to some degr...
When someone is yelling at you, for any reason, if you can see the truth that they are full of pain and problems, everyone is, then you will not take it personally and get yourself upset and stressed. It will also help you discover who you really...
Most negative emotions, such as a depressing thought, internal conflict, arguments, feeling hopeless, etc. all these things are due to a lack of understanding. You may think you understand, and that is why you see a thing as hopeless or negative ...
If you want to be emotionally free, you must accept certain facts about being human. **One:**A human being needs companionship above all else, which includes physical contact. **Two:**You do not know the truth about yourself. You will imagine an...
Probably one of the most effective things you can do to quickly and profoundly alter your being and character is to catch yourself when you take anything to be about you. When you take something personally, stop and try to see it as something tha...
I had a tech support issue, and their response is typical as well as comical and the cause of a lot of frustration in our world. The tech support answer was so astounding, I realized the value in showing how a person looks when they do not read em...
Our emotions have a powerful effect on our body, giving it all sorts of stress related illnesses. Our mind creates our emotions. What we think is happening is the beginning of our emotional responses. Emotions begin with an event that we interpre...
***Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment,*****Buddha** There are three things which rule our lives; desires, fears of all types and, regrets for mistakes, missed opportunities and decisio...
Not caring is an empty, dead feeling. Not being concerned is a very alive vibrant feeling that can come by keeping the awareness in the chest with no other thought, fully present. One is full and the other is empty. For this to be a full feeling,...
Have you ever been, or talked to someone who is clearly upset and when asked; “What’s wrong?” insists that nothing is wrong? The more you probe, the more they resist. There is clearly something wrong but they will not open up. You write it off as...
We often confuse our emotions with what we think they are as opposed to what they really are. This misinterpretation of our feelings to the opposite will keep us limited as this process most often interprets a wise emotion or intuition as a weak e...
Is the difference between being open and closed emotionally simply being focused or preoccupied? Maybe we are just too preoccupied with the stresses and problems of life to be able to relax our mind enough and that is partially what prevents our a...
Not everyone, but many people, have a level of guilt, insecurity or self-consciousness, a general unease and discomfort around other people. This article is about the cause and thus how to release guilt and attain emotional freedom. The key is at ...
Insecurity, fear, inhibitions, lack of self-confidence and freezing up are some common plagues. Feeling great then all of a sudden feeling down, a spontaneous emotional drop in mood and energy, or any emotional swings without significant cause is ...
Words are our main form of communication. Words have the greatest power to make us happy or sad, aggravated or elated. How can something that has no actual material reality have such a powerful effect over us emotionally and physically? Here is a ...
The most attractive is of course enlightenment, spiritual realization, self-knowledge or anything in that direction. Promise of this draws many people, and although it would be wonderful to have a large following, I will not claim to have achieved...
Many people suffer from the past of what their parents did to them, the negative events of their childhood etc. The purpose of this article is to present the reason why it is hard to release the past and end the perpetual limitations and suffering...
We all suffer from a heart that is closed, either a little or a lot, and we spend our life trying to avoid being aware of this, but it is always there in the back of our mind. This article will take the article; “How To Find What You Really Are” a...
If you observe yourself, you will discover that all you are is an emotional feeling. It could be positive or negative, love, anger or hatred, it changes frequently, but ultimately we are nothing more than emotional feelings. Are not all your thou...
All things come from seeds, all plants and living beings, eggs are seeds. If every thing originates from a seed, and thoughts and emotions are things, then thoughts too, come from seeds. The proof that thoughts and emotions are real things is in...
To be free of guilt and negative self attacks, we must pay our debts. Not only the monetary ones, but the ones which caused harm to someone because of your actions. When you do something or advise someone do something which causes them harm, you ...
It is not true, in my experience, that a person’s thoughts or energy can effect another person. The way they APPEAR to effect you is by your sharing the thought. You can find happiness in ending negative emotions by seeing their true source. If I...
As your eyes focus on one point, but your peripheral vision takes in and registers so much more in your subconscious, so do all your senses, of smell, sounds, touch, and taste. Self-improvement as well as inner peace and happiness can only be foun...
The Law of Opposites is unavoidable in our world. It simply states that for everything, its opposite must also exist. This applies to temperature; hot and cold, weight; heavy and light, and emotions; love and hate. This article is about Love. Unf...
If you tell someone they are stupid and insult them, different people will react differently. Some will take it personally and feel bad, others will get aggressive and reply in kind. However, if you give anyone love and positive emotions, everyon...
True, pure and real emotion is so overwhelming that one feels an expansion in the centre of the chest that grows and continues to grow, issuing forth a physical sensation of pressure, an almost solid but fluid substance. As it flows forth, the bo...
This article will explain the cause of stress related to the pressures of life and how to eliminate the negative effects. Not only will that be explained, but you will also find how to use the pressure in a positive way. If you push on something,...
Every machine has natural limitations, its individual capacity. When it is stretched beyond its capacity, it will be stressed. Please bear in mind for this talk that the word Stress is meant like stretched to its maximum. No machine exists that ...
One of the many drawbacks to western culture is the lack of involvement and devotion on a deeply personal level to anything or anyone. When I was in Cambodia I spent a few days with a group from Singapore who was there as a charity project bringi...
The greatest successes in business and life in general usually come from a decision based on a 'feeling'. That gut instinct when you just know something is right, or wrong, is usually correct, but all too often, recalled only after we made the wro...
There is a saying, look to yourself for the cause and solution to all your problems. This is a very interesting saying because it has many meanings. The first is the obvious, to see what you have done wrong to cause the problem. This is easy to a...
As we discussed in the previous article, I Didn’t Mean That, ‘Emotional Containment’ here is the exercise to help with attaining this freedom. The problem is that it sounds simple, but if taken literally and applied without wisdom, it can be dange...
Many times people, in the heat of the moment, will say something, and then quickly upon realizing that it was inappropriate, try to stuff the words back in their mouth pleading that they did not mean that or they were just joking. The problem is t...
Emotions are real, there is no question of how large a part of our life they are, but here I propose that there is much more to emotions than just feelings. Emotions are really a message, rather than a feeling. They are not caused by a reaction t...
When one person laughs, everyone laughs. When someone cries, others cry. Emotions are felt sincerely indeed, but the question is what elicits the emotion? Are we feeling based on the event, or is it because someone else is expressing an emotion wh...
The only way to be truly free is to accept your prison, be that in the society or in your own mind. In that acceptance, you have released your resistance. By releasing your resistance, you become free. Negative emotions and resistance is a denial...
The way to conquer negative feelings associated with being criticized is based on your interpretation of events. You take things that someone says about you negatively as if you are being criticized, then get depressed, angry or in a bad mood. Thi...
There are three kinds of emotions, those related to the animal level or physical body, the ego/personality and those related to the ‘Something More’ that is referred to by people who feel there is something more to life. As the human body and per...
Negative emotions are not real and are not natural. It is not possible to have any negative emotion that is part of our essence. Every negative emotion is learnt. Negative emotions need to be defined so they are not confused with other emotions...
The subject of this article is about reacting to negative emotions. If you are affected by other peoples actions, that indicates that you care about what they think of you, you are not free. Certainly that is normal in our society, but is it norm...
For those of you who know me and my views on ‘weekend enlightenment workshops’ you will be appropriately shocked by the title of this article, and even more shocked to know that I believe this to be true. The three minutes are spent in reading th...
This is an exercise which I suggest doing for one month or longer. I would really appreciate hearing your results since it is a matter of great interest and a worthy study. Finding the true root cause of anything is the method to eliminate even s...
Paranoia is fear of being caught. What exactly are you afraid of being caught for? Is it for being pure and perfect? That is doubtful. If a person is paranoid, that means they have something to fear, something they did wrong or are too weak to...
This article is a transcript of a talk with a male student. It starts with a discussion of an exercise he has been given and then expands into the subject of the intellectual and emotional centers, feelings and thoughts. He is very shy and lacks s...
Your thoughts control your moods. This is simply the way it is, we must think, or something must reach our intellectual mind to be processed and understood before we can feel anything. If someone insulted you in a language you do not understand, h...
Law of Attraction - Positive Thinking Series I was discussing my recent trip to Japan with a friend and mentioned how the Japanese people are so obedient to the rules and respect of others. How they form lines and stay on their side of the walkwa...
Law of Attraction - Service & Contemplation Series If you have no useful purpose, your work, job, something that you do that is useful and serving humanity daily, or if you do not find what you do to be a useful service, then you may have a f...
Law of Attraction - Practical Meditation Series As an example, when people speak about the roads on a snowy day and say it is a mess, that is a negative attitude. Even if it is true, it may be messy but it is what it is. You will deal with whatev...
Law of Attraction - Mind Series Every machine has natural limitations, its individual capacity. When it is stretched beyond its capacity, it will be stressed. No machine exists that is a singularly whole unit, all machines are merely a sum of ...
There is no character trait or condition that affects one human that does not affect every human. It is just a matter of degree. The preceding statement must be part of every sincere persons wish to improve oneself. One of the greatest confusi...
Anger at someone in a situation where let's say you almost hit them with your car as example and hurt them gets you very angry and say what a stupid fool. Yet the only damage would be to the other person and it was really an innocent act on their ...
Deep emotion, in order to be experienced, requires a deep relaxation of the body. Either fear of emotions or a desire not to feel them because of what comes with the experience of that deep love and emotion, causes a physical tension which traps ...
What do you feel? The first thing that happens when asked this question is that you think about it. Then your mind goes in one direction and you think about that further. The moment thought or intellect comes into the question of feeling, imagi...
Emotion is emotion, it is neutral in nature. Your thoughts, at the time, make it positive or negative. Emotion is an amazing thing, and very misunderstood. Everyone has it, you feel up and down from time to time, and yet at times cannot unders...
I would like to explain why this slogan is the foundation of my philosophy. Like all foundations, there is a lot more to it than you can see, and usually a foundation is buried underground, so its real value is hidden when you look at the building...
The goal of personal development is personal freedom. Freedom from your emotions, moods, reactions to success or failure and most importantly, freedom from being dependant on other people or your environment. Emotional independence is not about ...
