What makes relationships work or fail — attraction, partnership, and the inner states that determine outer dynamics.
You want the perfect partner, you are waiting to find that perfect person and not willing to settle for less. Or, you give in to accept flaws that you know are big problems because you are tired of being alone. Both are big mistakes and lead to...
Make every kiss as if it’s your first. Eat every meal as if it’s your last. Make love every time as if you are the only ones you both have ever known. These three things will make every meal more delicious and love grow always deeper.
Written during the covid lockdown. We are going to come out of this lockdown with a high amount of poverty, unemployment, bankruptcies, financial, mental and emotional destruction. What matters now more than ever, is a loving and sincere relatio...
There are probably going to be a lot of divorces coming from this time of being forced to stay at home, 24/7 together, unless we understand that we are all sick, mentally and emotionally, due to the situation. We must all perceive this as a perio...
Communication is one of the most important aspects to a healthy relationship, however the ‘Silent Treatment’ is something that people do without considering the destructive results. Let’s examine what happens when one is ignored. Everyone wants ...
Let’s look at one of the biggest turnoffs or red flags when we're dating. When we say something without meaning to be rude or nasty, if everything is going great but we say something that changes the mood because the other person gets upset with ...
Reacting emotionally, even to a minor degree, being sensitive to what somebody says and getting upset because you didn't like it, or you felt insulted, has a profound effect on the other person. You may be correct that what they said was inapprop...
“You remind me of this guy that I fell for (or rather felt a deep connection with) when I first got into the online dating scene..” I’ve had women tell me this, which is a quote from one woman I met on line, and have heard an almost identical com...
When your partner is curious about something and you are being evasive, that's going to set up suspicions and doubts. It implies you may be hiding something that you've done wrong. Or, you might just like to keep some secrets or, you don't want t...
When you get to know somebody and all is good, love and affection builds, a desire to be with them builds, but sometimes that fades with the chemistry and passion. Love that lasts, builds with respect and admiration for that person, for who they r...
We all have morals, but of course everyones morals are different. This is not an article about right and wrong, morals and values. It is about how your mind works and what you are doing to form your own subconscious emotional reactions, i.e: crazi...
Many people have come to me with the same problem; ‘Everything seems so perfect with this new person I met, I can’t find anything wrong, so I better leave before I get hurt.’ It’s very common to not be able to figure out what that strange thing i...
First of all, we need to clarify that you cannot build positive energy because positive energy is infinite and as natural as your blood. What you can do which appears to increase the positive is to eliminate negative energy. It’s just a balance, a...
First we must make certain assumptions that we accept as truth for the purpose of this article. You can change you opinion after you finish reading, but at least while you read, it will be beneficial. First, that we are fragmented beings and not ...
The reason that heartbreak is so strong and hard to get over is that the pain is not caused by what you think. Because of this mistaken source, the pain is kept alive longer than is necessary since it is found, understood and resolved. The loss o...
Finding Loving Companionship 'You can't fix something until you know it's broken'. And before one can fix it, one must know why, where and how it broke in order to fix it, or determine if it needs to be discarded and acquire a replacement.. One'...
Because the only thing we all want is to be loved. Be kind to animals and people especially those less fortunate than yourself, that's the best way to lift them up; never look down on anyone; be humble.. Exercises. Show Appreciation For Everythi...
Nobody wants to hear you talk all the time. Be attentive to listen more, allowing other people the pleasure of speaking and hold yourself back.. Do not over talk or interrupt the person speaking. There is no need for you to add to everything anyo...
Many Americans think that America has a duty to basically police the world. This post may sound politically incorrect and many people are going to oppose my view, however i suggest you read it through and see the principle I am trying to make. Yo...
This article is about a very good example how an essential truth of life can be imprisoning or liberating. If you can take this article for the lesson it delivers, and take it as a principle to apply to all things in life, to be able to see everyt...
It all begins with your attitude, however attitude is not necessarily what you think it is, so please read on. You must of course believe that you have something of quality to offer, something of value that you can provide to the work or person y...
The problems of the rich are more difficult than the problems of the poor because they have already tried and found the emptiness in the solutions that the poor still hope can bring them happiness. The point is to say that although money does sol...
We all know that we like friends and companionship etc, but rarely does anyone question WHY we like or need certain things. We are, a scientifically accepted fact, an electro chemical organism. Which means we are made up physically of a bunch of ...
The little idiosyncrasies and things that bother you about your partner is actually a fixed opinion and ego centred way you want it done, wanting it your way. Letting those things go and accepting everyone, with their little issues, makes you a b...
If I was sent here from another planet to study humans, I would be very confused by something that seems to be very common. Even the nicest people who are close friends or family, and really care, will add a negative twist to their show of gratit...
If this were my last day alive and I was asked what I discovered in a lifetime of searching for Truth, I would have to say that the Beatles were correct, all you need is love. But life is not that simple, and in fact, if all we need is love, then...
The feeling of not being loved is an imagination of the ego while it searches for happiness. You have to create the feeling of not being loved in yourself by yourself. Or more accurately, you have to imagine you are not loved, because that is simp...
As your eyes focus on one point, but your peripheral vision takes in and registers so much more in your subconscious, so do all your senses, of smell, sounds, touch, and taste. Self-improvement as well as inner peace and happiness can only be foun...
We have all been lied to, cheated, tricked and hurt. Sometimes it is just the common result of business, other times it is incompetence or a lack of accepting responsibility, but most of the time it is someone who is either a stranger or at least ...
The Law of Opposites is unavoidable in our world. It simply states that for everything, its opposite must also exist. This applies to temperature; hot and cold, weight; heavy and light, and emotions; love and hate. This article is about Love. Unf...
I was asked a question; “I’m trying to find a way to balance having a relationship and achieve my goal. But I see I’ve failed to realise I cannot have both. Because my goal is also to be balanced my thinking is that I needed to have a relationship...
The buddha said that what keeps us reincarnating is our need to be recognized, we want to exist and live eternally. The greatest pain for a human is to be totally alone, or even to feel totally alone, that there is no one with any wisdom you coul...
This article is a gamble. When you read it, maybe you will identify with what is written, or think I am a fool. I have written this for a purpose and I am willing to take that risk. All I ask is that if the subject interests you, then please read ...
You cannot make yourself love yourself just as you cannot make yourself love another person. Loving yourself is a result, rather than a cause, of a changed personality. When you have rid yourself of qualities that you dislike or are no longer limi...
In this world everything must have its opposite to exist. Therefore, human (temporal) love prevents mystical realization because to have human love means its opposite must exist which is negative emotions. Negative emotions are what prevent pure ...
The greatest successes in business and life in general usually come from a decision based on a 'feeling'. That gut instinct when you just know something is right, or wrong, is usually correct, but all too often, recalled only after we made the wro...
It is an interesting thing I have noticed, that everyone dreams and wishes to be a certain way, free of negative emotions, free in spirt, open of heart, without pain or fear, and meet someone like that. Yet if they meet someone who possesses those...
It is clear that an accepted belief these days is that all is love. That all things exist because of love. In Sufism, we say that God is love and out of God’s love all things have come into being. So nothing exists save love. It is also common...
Sincerity is the word. It is the power behind all success in personal refinement. Pure thought is the power to command. Thought is made impure by fears, falsity, distractions, false desires, false personality, fragmentation, identification and s...
In the search for what excites you in life, there is no thing to do or possess, no place to go, nothing at all that can replace the essential need and ultimate foundation of good companionship to make life in general more interesting and satisfyin...
I wonder...when something new is opened or discovered and there is so much activity, people say how wonderful and helpful it is, are they lying? or just wrong. For the purposes of this discussion, I am not speaking of a new restaurant, rather this...
There is a nice story of two old friends, one who never married. His friend asked one day, why he never found a wife. John said that he did look, but there was always something. One woman just could not cook well, another was too selfish, anoth...
A human without love is not a human being. To live without loving is merely existing, it is a robots life. To be truly alive, to live, to feel, one must have someone to love. Love must be given to someone who can receive it for the lover to feel ...
Forgiveness is a very popular concept. Everyone who is interested in self healing and personal development is talking about forgiveness and how that is being compassionate etc. However, many people find it difficult or impossible to truly forgive....
Some Of My Thoughts About The Foundation Of A Good Relationship A good relationship is built on being able to have a good conversation rather than a strung together line of clichés and standard lines about any subject that are mere repetitions of...
