Resistance Causes Stress
If you are driving and someone is pushing very close to your back, that is because you are irritating them, so they will irritate you.
They want to go, they do NOT want to push you, they just want to go and you are holding them back, so who is at fault?
If you are holding someone back, either on the road or in life in general, they will get frustrated and irritated, just like you would if someone was holding you back.
If that happens, then just pull to the side and let them pass, then they will not be irritated and you will not be irritated.
Bear in mind I am using the realistic example of driving because we can all relate to that, but the same principle applies if you are blocking someone in the grocery store, or by not doing your work in the office quickly as you could which stops other people from doing their work, etc.
Stress and problems are often self created because you are not doing what it takes to let them go away. Rather your ego jumps up and demands to be in charge, being a mountain as I refer to in other works, and you become an obstacle to others in the vain attempt to feel powerful.
If a mountain is blocking someones path, they will be unhappy and they will make you unhappy.
But a cloud let's them pass right through them, right past them, and nobody is irritated, therefore everyone has a happier life.
If someone is bothering you and out of revenge's you want to bother them, then you are creating unnecessary stress and anger for both of you, therefore that will carry over into your home and work life.
By revenge, vindictive behaviour to hurt someone because you feel they are hurting you when the truth is you started by holding them back and could have just moved out of the way, you created a shock wave of stress throughout your life and their life which will rollover and effect your friends, family and coworkers.
Think about the repercussions of being stressed or bothered by someone, and you bothering them back, about how deeply that effects your life, versus just letting them pass and it is over without any negative emotions in your life or anyones.
Every time you are bothered or stressed by someone, you must consider what part you played in creating the situation, or what you could have done to prevent it from getting stressful, and then consider if your ego that needs to be seen and given priority is worth the stress it causes in your life.
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