Emotional pain and suffering is very easy to eliminate original

Emotional pain and suffering is very easy to eliminate because it's essentially not real.

You must test this information and prove it to yourself in under one minute. You must do the proving yourself with this very simple exercise otherwise if it stays purely intellectual rather than a personal experience, it will not benefit you.

When you get angry and insult a server at the coffee shop or in the restaurant or anyone, anywhere, when you are angrily venting or yelling or screaming, tell the truth about if it was really about them or was there something else in your life at that time that was bothering you which made you react disproportionately to the situation?

Did you later regret acting that aggressively especially if it was to someone you care about; family, partner, child, whoever.

Now you have tested and proven to yourself that your angry, insulting actions were often, if not always, coming from some difficulty in your own life, your own pain, sufferings or fears, and you expressed it inappropriately to another person, to which they took as a personal attack against them, even though you know that it wasn't really about them.

If you are honest and you see that that is what's behind all of your aggressive behaviour, then it's not hard to understand that everybody is exactly the same.

There's nothing to forgive for what people have done to you, but instead you must have compassion and pity for the pain they were in that caused them to behave that way.

It's all in your own imagination. In other words, all your emotional pain and suffering that comes from somebody treating you badly, yelling at you, insulting you, putting you down, from your birth until this moment, is entirely because of how you took those words or actions.

How to be instantly healed for everything that happened since you were born and conscious of feeling hurt is very simple.

You can be healed by knowing why you feel all this pain and suffering and emotional damage, which is because you took it personally, therefore, your emotional pain is based on your personal illusion of what happened, meaning WHY you were treated that way, instead of the truth behind their actions. That means, the cause of your pain is not really what you imagine it to be.

You took it as if it was intentionally meant to hurt you, to attack you, and it's all about you, but as you just proved to yourself with the little test, it was not about you at all.

Reality is, it has nothing to do with you. It was that person venting or expressing their fear, pain, suffering, confusion, whatever their problems in life are, were or will be.

They vented it. You happen to be the one in front of them at the time, or you were the perfect target for them to vent at, like my father venting at me because I was his young child so he felt he could yell and beat me, when he could not vent at anyone else.

I did not get emotionally damaged because for some reason, I could always see that he was crazy, that it had nothing to do with me. In fact, his actions motivated me to excel in my life and forge my own independent future.

You are damaged now, and now you are venting at others, damaging them because your whole stupid human society tells you that you're important and everything is about you, and therefore all those attacks are attacks against you.

Now they tell you that you need to have boundaries and defend yourself because no one should insult you or put you down. But the reality is they never did, it's just the words or the actions which you took that way instead of seeing the underlying reality, which is that they're in pain and suffering and they were venting.

If you had to burp, or fart, or pee, and you are told that you cannot let it out for hours, or days, or weeks, or years, how would you feel? Isn't emotional pain even more painful to keep inside? By setting these boundaries, you are causing tremendous pain and suffering upon other people, and by so doing, upon yourself as well.

Now, having said that, you're probably disputing it. You've got all of your baggage and new age concepts and psychotherapy and psychology and expert PhDs telling you what it should be and what it is. Of course, they all have expensive solutions of drugs, therapy, courses, books, etc to help you deal with the problem, that in fact they have created. It's a great business model. Create a need to sell your product.

If you will use a little bit of objective reality to see what drives negative comments, which you just proved in our test, you will be instantly healed of all your emotional pains.

Your self-esteem is now fully healthy and perfectly balanced. You have no inferiority anymore, because no one ever really insulted or put you down. They were just screaming that they are in pain.

If you will be mature enough to do that, you won't have any more emotional pain from the past or will ever have it going forward and everybody can be allowed to vent their pain without the fear of repercussions, but instead receive compassion and a hug. Wouldn't that be a nicer world?

All of this applies to both, when someone is actually being nasty to you and also, when you IMAGINE they are being that way, even if they deny it.

Emotional pain, unlike physically being beaten, can only happen in your own mind by how you take it. Let me prove this right now.

If I insult you in a language you understand, you will be hurt. But if I insult you in a language you cannot understand even a single word, you would not react at all, because you do not know that I am insulting you. Correct?

So therefore, words have no innate value in themselves. They only have the value you give them, and as a thinking person, you have the ability to give any word any value you choose. That is what makes humans different than any other creature on earth, the freedom of choice.

My last point is, as we have the human birthright of freedom of choice, are you going to use it, or let other people choose what you feel and you just obey like a donkey.